Of course! Working mothers can balance work and family

In the past, responsibility for women after marriage was to attend to their husband or groom, teach and take care of their children. On the other hand, the husband will be the only one working and earning money to feed for the family. However, in today’s world, this concept has no longer been commonly used. Married women now also go out and venture in the working force. Women nowadays are also as competitive as men and they feel that they too can earn their own money and not only rely on their husbands. Therefore, the question on whether working mothers can balance both work and family arises.

I strongly believe that working mothers can indeed balance both work and family. Take my mum for example, she sets out early in the morning for work and comes back home only late at night but even in situation like this, she still tries her very best to always make time for the family. My mum believed that family is forever more important than work even if how high her position is in her career.

She uses ways like calling home during her breaks, chat with me through MSN by webcam, make her weekends free just for the family and most importantly plan her schedules well. In addition on how my mum get to spend time with us despite being a busy bee herself, is that she always tries to finish up her work in the office so that she would not need to bring her piles of work home and rush on them, instead she will use her time after work to be with the family and coach my siblings and me with our studies.

  I fathom that my mum is a busy woman and that she has a lot of burdens to carry and sometimes we as children may even add on to her worries but I finally noticed that balancing both work and family not only requires working mothers alone but it also involves the understanding of the family. If there is no one to empathise with these working mums and always think that they put their work as their priority, then of course as a child you will feel that she’s juggling very hard between work and family and thus have no time for you.

 Why not we put ourselves in their shoes? Only like this then can we come to realize that if there is no one to understand us and if we cannot plan our schedule properly, we are forever struggling between work and family.

So, as children of working mothers, let’s not always think that our ‘mama’ is neglecting us all the time and as for working mothers, do remember to note that your life is not all about office, meeting and work only, there is still your loving family back at home.

In conclusion, I personally feel that working mothers truly can have the best of both worlds.

Done by: Shanny Thie

I think working mothers cannot balance work and family

            I think that working mothers cannot really balance both work and family. When they come back from work, they will be too tired to even play with the kids or cook dinner. Women are also not any super women who are not tired easily or not exhausted at all after doing so much work at their office and at home. Usually, the mothers would be doing more work than taking care of the family as if you estimated the time taken in the office and the time spent at home, the one in the office is a lot more longer.          

The family could be taken care of if they hired a maid, it will be completely different. As the mother has to work for the first few 13hours, the maid can be at home the whole day. She could help to clean the house, cook food, take care of the children and even buy things for the family from a near-by market. In other words, working mothers can concentrate on their work more than they usually do.                                                                                                                                            

I notice that some people can manage both sides very well by doing part-time jobs and rushing back home to do their housework. Even though it goes very well like this, the person gets lesser money than she could get. Sometimes it is half the price.                                   

                Sometimes, I do think that the man should be earning the money while the mothers stay at home and do housework. But as people are very greedy and want to earn more money, they work outside too and forget about the family who needs her. I think that this mother is really very selfish who does only care about herself and not her family. She should at least go on part-time jobs or hire a maid which most people do. But again, she is not willing to spend the money on maids and lose money by doing part-time jobs.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                From what I learn from the interviews some people think that work is more important while some people think that family is more important. As man is more valuable than money, most people think that family is more important. I think that this ‘question’ has a lot of meaning to it and is quite hard to answer. As people grow up, they would change their point of view in things like this. So for some people who think that work is more important now, they could just say that family is good when they grow up.      

                Overall, I think that working mothers cannot balance both work and family at the same time as it will be too exhausted for them to come home with extra office work  to do with their daily housework. It will be ‘alright’ if they would be willing to spend money on a maid.

Essay by: Amanda Mak

I believe working mothers can balance work and family

Although it will take patience, determination and hard work, I believe working mothers can balance both work and family. Everyone deserves to have an equal chance at life, to have dreams and a career.

Does this sound familiar?

“Mothers are meant to stay at home to take care of the household, while the Fathers go out to work.”

That’s caveman thinking, and fortunately for today cavemen are history.

Now mothers can do both.

For the menial tasks, hiring maids has now become the trend. Now what’s left is the family bonding, which will require a lot of determination to get home by dinnertime, by which mothers will have to have shut the work out, for now it is time for the family. This also means that mothers would have to have finish up the due work by then. If a mother brings work to the family too, then the work will be introduced into the family, and there goes the total family focus. For if a mother truly wants to be top in both worlds, then a 100% of herself must be given to each, agreed?

Both have equally high demands, thus both cannot collide with each other. Thus when it comes to work, it is work time. When it comes to family, it is family and only family.

Also, mothers should designate a family day, most likely during the weekends, planning the activities such that the family never feels neglected in the know of the fact that their mothers work.

However, this should not all depend on the mother. The whole family should make time for each other and learn to understand if the occasional inabilities to make time surface.

Back to the question at hand, it is therefore that I believe that working mothers can balance both work and family.

 

by Wong E-Wen